Katherine Woodward Thomas
New York Times bestselling author of Conscious Uncoupling and Calling in “The One”; and licensed marriage and family therapist
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Recommended by Katherine Woodward Thomas
“Darlene Lancer has created a 'must-have' manual for those who suffer from the nasty habit of getting into bed with a narcissist. This book will enlighten you about the subtle and seductive methods that have been used to reel you in, and will provide you with the concrete steps to make you 'narcissist proof' moving forward, liberating you to finally create the mutually loving relationship you long for.” (from Amazon)
by Darlene A Lancer LMFT·You?
Do you feel trapped between your love and your pain, long for peace but feel exhausted, belittled, and confused by a narcissist? If you're in an abusive relationship and either don't want to leave or are having difficulty doing so, Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist is for you. It's insightful, researched, and empathetic. The core problem is that narcissists prioritize power and sacrifice the relationship to get it, while their partners prioritize the relationship and sacrifice themselves to keep it. Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist offers hope and can help you restore your self-esteem and rebalance power in an abusive or narcissistic relationship. It includes an in-depth analysis of the relationship, Essential Tools for Improving and Leaving it, how to make changes, and how to assess its prognosis. It will help you leave if that's what you choose. This workbook is packed with healing exercises, checklists, and many suggestions, including a strategic step-by-step plan with scripts to confront abuse and get your needs met. You will reclaim yourself and improve your relationship, whether the narcissist is your partner, parent, child, sibling, or co-worker or doesn’t have a narcissistic personality disorder. In sum, you will have practical plans you can implement to better your relationship with yourself and your loved one and be able to determine whether and how to leave the relationship. You will: Discover the diagnosis, type, and deep motivations of a narcissistRecognize the warning signs when dating a narcissistIdentify the behavior and what to expect in narcissistic relationshipsUnderstand your role and attraction to a narcissistRegain your independence, confidence, and self-esteemRebalance the power in the relationshipFind out how to confront narcissistic abuse effectivelyBe able to assess your relationship and prepare to leave Chapter 1 examines a narcissistic personality disorder, types of narcissists, narcissistic parents, and the cause and signs of narcissism. Chapter 2 focuses on the underlying features, behaviors, motivations, and traits. You will discover how to identify the type you’re dealing with, and why narcissists act the way they do. Chapter 3 explains narcissistic behavior and defenses and all varieties of narcissistic abuse including the most subtle forms. Chapters 4 and 5 describe codependency and the typical personality of people who love narcissists and what makes them susceptible to narcissists and abuse. Chapters 6 and 7 look at the relationship, starting with the mutual attraction and the signs and problems that arise when dating and loving a narcissist. They cover issues such as control, intimacy, emotional unavailability, love-bombing, trauma bonds, ghosting, and gaslighting and how to determine whether a narcissist is capable of love. If you’ve been repeatedly emotionally abandoned, you’ll learn how to prevent its recurrence. Chapters 8 and 9 are about taking action and changing the balance of power. A blueprint is laid out to follow in order to change the relationship dynamics. Chapter 9 details a step-by-step game plan to effectively communicate with the narcissist in your life and confront their narcissistic behavior and subtle forms of emotional abuse. Scripts are suggested you can practice setting boundaries and ask for changes that you want. It also offers advice for navigating couples therapy. The final chapters 10-12 discuss leaving your relationship and moving on. They cover why it’s so difficult, how to decide, and what to expect, including hoovering and flying monkeys, plus practical advice regarding tactics and strategies in divorcing a narcissist. The stages of recovery from narcissistic abuse are set forth with guidance and recommendations for creating a single life, dating, and therapy.
Recommended by Katherine Woodward Thomas
“Our ability to enter into, nourish, and at times even end relationships in healthy ways is one of the keys to living a happy and fulfilling life. Yet most of us struggle with painful relational patterns that show up again and again, thwarting our ability to realize the higher potentials our relationships hold for well-being and mutual satisfaction. In this well-written, well-researched offering, Gleb Tsipursky provides clear and effective ways to relate to one another that promise to empower our relationships to be healthier and happier for many years to come. I strongly recommend it to those of us who are committed to learning how to grow our ability to love and be loved.” (from Amazon)
by Gleb Tsipursky PhD, David McRaney·You?
by Gleb Tsipursky PhD, David McRaney·You?
When what you think you know gets in the way—this eye-opening guide offers a clear path to forging stronger, healthier, and more meaningful relationships. We all want positive, productive, and genuine relationships—whether it’s with our family, friends, peers, coworkers, or romantic partners. And yet, time and time again, we all seem to make the same thinking errors that threaten or sabotage these relationships. These errors are called cognitive bias, and they happen when our brain attempts to simplify information by making assumptions. Grounded in evidence-based cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), The Blindspots Between Us reveals the most common “hidden” cognitive biases that blind us to the truth, and which lead to the misunderstandings that damage our relationships. With this guide, you’ll learn key skills to help you debias—to stop, pause, and objectively observe situations before jumping to conclusions about others’ motives. You’ll also learn to consider other people’s points of view and past experiences before rushing to judgment and potentially undermining your relationships. Being a human is hard. None of us are perfect, and we all have our blindspots that can get in the way of building the relationships we really and truly want, deep down. This much-needed book will help you identify your own blindspots, and move beyond them for better relationships—and a better world.